I often hear too much from women of all ages about covering up problem spots, with make-up. They linger on the things that they don’t like about their faces, and they try to work out only so that they can fit into a dress. And these women fill their minds up with thoughts of self-hate just because they don’t look like a photoshopped model in a glossy magazine.
I see advertisements and articles about the next most ridiculous diet craze, and hear about women stuffing themselves in the weirdest death-trap contraptions to slim and shape their bodies. However, what I want to tell them is that all that silly stuff doesn’t truly matter.
Feeling confident in yourself, being as healthy as you can be, and being kind matter more than the numbers on a scale, or whether or not that weird cow-lick thing from the bangs you cut at home yourself is staying down. When it comes down to it compassion is what matters.
And my mother again would say to me, “You can’t eat beauty. It doesn’t feed you.” And these words plagued and bothered me; I didn’t really understand them until finally I realized that beauty was not a thing that I could acquire or consume, it was something that I just had to be.
And what my mother meant when she said you can’t eat beauty was that you can’t rely on how you look to sustain you. What is fundamentally beautiful is compassion for yourself and for those around you. That kind of beauty enflames the heart and enchants the soul. —Oscar Award winning actress of “12 Years A Slave,” and Best Breakthrough Performance Award winner, Lupita Nyong’o.